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 PLEASE JOIN JERSEY SHORE PFLAG THIS SUNDAY, 06/05/16, AT 11:15 A.M. TO MARCH IN THE 25TH ANNIVERSARY PARADE OF JERSEY PRIDE, AS WE SHOW OUR PRIDE FOR OUR LGBT LOVED ONES!

 

MEETING AREA FOR PARADE: MAIN STREET AND COOKMAN AVENUE, ASBURY PARK

 

BRING YOUR POSTERS/SIGNS (THOUGH NOT NECESSARY!), YOUR PRIDE AND YOUR VOICES AS WE REPRESENT JERSEY SHORE PFLAG'S FAMILY!!

 

ALWAYS A GREAT, FUN TIME DURING THE PARADE AND FESTIVAL!

 

WE HOPE YOU WILL JOIN US!

RSVP BY EITHER REPLYING TO THIS EMAIL OR ON OUR FACEBOOK EVENT PAGE!

 

HAPPY PRIDE!

 www.jerseyshorepflag.org

Helpline:  (908) 814-2155
www.facebook.com/jspflag

 
 
 
Please check out the website for the latest information and resources.
 
 
 
Jersey shore pflag CORDIALLY INVITES YOU TO OUR
 
 
 
 annual POTLUCK holiday party*
 
 

Saturday, JANUARY 2, 2016, 7:00-11 PM


UNITED CHURCH OF CHRIST

1681 Ridgeway road, Manchester, nu  08757


Let’s celebrate together as we bring in the New Year!

DJ Dave will be spinning the music for your listening pleasure and dancing... 

Jessica Hershey will be providing the laughs with her comedy show!


All we ask is that each person attending please bring a food dish to share

(in a disposable tray/bowl) and a bottle of a non-alcoholic beverage. 

We will provide the desserts!  We would appreciate no chips, pretzels, etc.


Please RSVP to jspflag@gmail.com with the name(s) of those attending.

 

(We are also looking for volunteers to help with decorating, set up, serving and clean-up.

If you would like to volunteer, please email us! Thank you!)


 

We hope you will join us for the festivities!

 

Happy Holidays from our Jersey Shore PFLAG Family to Yours!

 

 
  
Please click this link for information on the Jersey Shore PFLAG support groups Monmouth County PFLAG info

While for some people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender holidays mean celebration, joy, family, and togetherness, for others it can mean a time of stress, difficulty, and even sadness or depression...especially if one feels that they aren’t able to come out or are not out to everyone in the family. Many of you reading this probably experienced one of these two options this past Thursday or some variation on it on Thanksgiving.  No matter what, PFLAG is here to help provide you support and information this holiday season and beyond.

Sitting through a family meal can be challenging enough, but what happens if you are not yet in a position to be true to your authentic self as you make your way through the meal?


 

Here are some suggestions--both for people who are LGBTQ and for families and allies--for getting through the end-of-year family celebrations unscathed!

IIf you are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer.......

·        Don't assume  you know how somebody will react to news of your sexual orientation or gender identity--you may be surprised.

·         Don't wait for your family’s attitude to change to have a special holiday. Recognize that your parents and family may need time to acknowledge and accept that they have an LGBTQ family member. It took you time to come to terms with who you are; now it is your family’s turn.

·         If you are transgender, be gentle with unintentional pronoun “slips.” Let your loved ones know that you understand how difficult this journey may be for them.

 

Before the visit...

·         Make a decision about which family members you intend to be “out” to, and how you will do so.

·         If you bring your partner home, don’t wait until late into the holiday evening to raise the issue of sleeping arrangements. Make plans in advance.

·        If you plan to come out to your family over the holidays, have support available, including  PFLAG publications and the number of a local PFLAG chapter.

 

During the visit...

·   Reassure  family members that you are still the same person they have always known.

·    Remember to affirm yourself.

·   Connect with someone else who is LGBTQ --by phone or in person--who understands what you are going through and will affirm you along the way.


After the visit...

·        If things went well with your family, be sure to follow up with them, post-holiday, to check in, see if they have any questions, and thank them for their love and support.

·         If things did not go as well as you had anticipated, be sure to contact your local support system, whether that be close friends, or members from your local PFLAG chapter. Reconnect quickly with those who love and affirm you as you are, and give yourself an opportunity to discuss and process the family event.

 

If you are the friend or family member of someone who is lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer...

·         Get support for yourself.  Check out pflag.org -we know allies are on a journey too. Find the phone number of the nearest PFLAG chapter.

·        Take your time.   Acceptance may not come instantly, but be honest about your feelings.

Before the visit…




·        Practice in advance, if you are going to be discussing your loved ones sexual orientation or gender identity with family and friends. If you are comfortable talking about it, your family and friends will probably be more comfortable too.

·         If your loved one is transgender, practice using the correct pronouns.

During the visit…




·       Treat an LBGTQ person like you would treat anyone else in your family.

·        Don't ask  your LGBTQ family member to act a certain way. Let them be their natural selves.

·         If your LGBTQ family member is bringing a partner, include them in your family traditions.

·         If you are uncertain about how to address an LGBTQ family member, respectfully ask in private.

After the visit...

·        If things went well with your LBGTQ loved one, be sure to follow up with them, post-holiday, to check in, see if they have any questions, and tell them how glad you were that they could be with you, authentically.

·        If things did not go as well as you had anticipated, be sure to contact your local PFLAG chapter, and give yourself a moment to connect with those who will understand the challenges and support as you work toward something with your LGBTQ loved ones.

·         Do not let too much time go by before contacting your LGBTQ loved one, and let them know that you are committed to trying again.

Thank you for your continued support of your local PFLAG chapter - Jersey Shore PFLAG!  We wish you the happiest of holidays!

 

   
Hello PFLAGers and Supporters!
 
October was an exciting month for PFLAGers across our nation and particularly our chapter. Five of us from Jersey Shore PFLAG attended the PFLAG National Convention in Nashville. We participated in "Give Back to Nashville", where we volunteered our time helping out in a food bank, an animal shelter, and a safe place for homeless LGBT youth (see pics below). We then attended two full days of conferences, speakers, and an awards ceremony. We each learned quite a bit and are bringing that information back to our chapter. Our chapter also participated in "Red Ribbon Week", and provided faculty and staff with information and literature about our chapter at Wall Intermediate School and Wall High School, as well as spoke at Wall High School Parent's Forum on LGBT youth and alcohol/drug addiction. Seth Rainess, facilitator of our Transgender/Transfamlies group, has given presentations at various schools and participated in a workshop with GLSEN at the NJEA Convention this past week in Atlantic City. This coming Saturday, 11/14/15, Jersey Shore PFLAG, together with PFLAG Collingswood, will be hosting a workshop at the GSA Forum, held in Ocean Township, NJ, titled "In or Out: Parent, Child or Educator...PFLAG Can Help!"  We hope you will consider going to the NJ GSA Forum. It is a one day event filled with workshops and incredible speakers (see their web site for additional info: http://njgsaforum.com/  )
I've been asked many times if I am aware of a place where LGBTQ people can go that is not a bar or club-like setting to meet others in a social setting.  Phyllis Long, our first Jersey Shore PFLAG President, has recently informed me of an LGBT social group, for all ages, that has formed in Toms River, and I am sharing that information: 
LGBTQ Safety Zone: Fridays, once a month at Christ Episcopal church (Disciples Hall) 415 Wahsington St Toms River, 08753. 
From the flyer, this is an opportunity to meet others, share topics of interest and discussion, open doors of friendship. 
Join us on : 11/20/15, 1/18/15
November, 2015, Jersey Shore PFLAG Support Meetings:
Just a reminder that our meetings start at 7 PM and we ask that you please try to arrive on time.  When you arrive, please sign in our log sheet with your name and email address.  This information is only used by us to send you Jersey Shore PFLAG information or announcements of area events that we feel you might find of interest. Our email list is never shared, as privacy and confidentiality is of utmost importance at our meetings. Also, please put on a name tag with your first name only (the name you would like to be called at our meetings). We do have a social time after each meeting. Thank you!  :) 

**Please note new meeting format.  Both our Parents Support Meeting and our Transgender/Transfamilies Support Meeting will be meeting on the third Monday of each month.** Both meetings will start out in the auditorium and following announcements and/or guest speaker, we will break into two groups, with the parents support group meeting in the room to the right behind the stage, and the Transgender/Transfamilies meeting staying as is.

Wednesday, 11/11/15, PFLAG General Support Meeting, United Church of Christ, 1681 Ridgeway Road, Toms River/Manchester.This group welcomes LGBTQ individuals and their parents, friends, family, and allies, and provides discussion and support of all LGBT-related issues or concerns.

Monday, 11/16/15, PFLAG Transgender/Transfamilies Support Meeting and Parents Support Group,  Presbyterian Church House of Shrewsbury, 352 Sycamore Avenue, Shrewsbury. These groups welcome those that are transgender or gender nonconforming, their parents, friends, family, and supporters, to discuss issues and concerns that are specific to trans* individuals and their families.  Our Parents group is specifically for parents of LGBTQ individuals that wish to have communication with other parents.  Please park in the rear parking lot, enter under the awning, go up one flight of stairs. We are past the kitchen to the left.

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Friday, November 20, 2015: Transgender Day of Rememberance.  Transgender Day of Remembrance is an opportunity for communities to come together and remember transgender people, gender-variant individuals, and those perceived to be transgender who have been murdered because of hate. If you would like to be a part of this service, please join us at the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Monmouth County, 1475 West Front Street, Lincroft, NJ, 7:30 PM.


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We wish each and every one of you a very Happy Thanksgiving.  We thank you for your continued support of our chapter and what we do - providing support, education and advocacy on behalf of our LGBTQ loved ones and their families and friends.  Happy Thanksgiving!
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Abby, Greg, Teri, William, Michele, Seth and Camille

Abby Maisonave
North Atlantic Regional Director, PFLAG National
President, Jersey Shore PFLAG

 
 
 
 

We encourage you to call us at 908-814-2155 before attending your first PFLAG support group so we can direct you to the meeting that will be best for your needs and answer any questions you may have about attending.

NOTE: Although the groups meet in a church building, we are not affiliated with any religious organization.

Abby Maisonave

President, Jersey Shore PFLAG
www.jerseyshorepflag.org
Helpline:  (908) 814-2155
Facebook:   Jersey Shore PFLAG
 
 
 
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